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Dear friends and family,

Reid and I learned this morning that our daughter Catherine Della Grandle, our sweet Baby A, went to heaven on Monday night.

As many of you know I was admitted to the hospital for long-term bed rest Friday afternoon (which was very much expected considering I'm measuring full-term). The weekend was fairly uneventful aside from round ligament pain and a few Braxton Hicks contractions, which are completely normal at this point in my pregnancy.

After a great appointment with the Maternal/Fetal Specialist and our OBGYN on Monday morning we were encouraged that things were going very well. In fact, that report was much better than the report we were given at our Friday appointment.

For reasons we'll never know, my water broke unexpectedly on Monday afternoon. I was immediately taken to Labor & Delivery by an incredible team of nurses. I was also very lucky that my doctor was in-house performing a C-section and was able to come see me immediately after.

I have been on magnesium sulfate to try to stop the contractions since last night. There are still many unknowns at this point. Babies B, C, and D look good, but there are still a lot of serious risks that could cause them to be born too early. The doctor said the best thing I can do for the babies right now is to stay calm. Reid and I are trying to take things hour by hour and not get too ahead of ourselves.

We are so blessed to be surrounded by our families and few close friends. We are praying for the continued good health and safety of our girls. We know and believe that He is good. Please pray we don't lose sight of that.

As you can imagine, its been a trying few days.  We appreciate your support but ask that, until things stabilize, you hold-off on calling, posting on Facebook, stopping by the hospital, etc. - though feel free to email or text.  Most of all, we appreciate your prayers for the safety of Mare and the girls.
Thank you all for your love and support,

Mare and Reid

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  1. I just started following your story and am heartbroken for you. I will be praying.

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  2. I am so sorry for your loss. :( I'll be praying for you and your girls.

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  3. Oh Mare, I am so sorry. I am and will continue to pray with more fervor for your health and that of your girls. I will also pray for peace and hope. You are so loved!

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  4. Praying for you! Hopefully with the new angel above she will keep her sisters safe! Stay Strong!

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  5. Saying a prayer for you and your family this morning.

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  6. I am so so sorry to read this. thinking of you and hoping the other three hold strong and safe inside you.

    Mo

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  7. I am so sorry to read this update...praying for you and the girls and for the peace of God to surrond you and Reid.

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  8. I have been following your story and completely AMAZED by your FAITH. GOD IS GOD ALL THE TIME we may not understand at the time but HE is. My prayers are with you and Reid and your girls.

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  9. I'm so sorry Mare! Praying for peace for you and Reid and health and safety for you and your sweet girls!

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  10. Mary and Reid, I am so so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious baby Catherine. Know that you are in our prayers, as well as the other girls. Please please don't hesitate to reach out with anything you need at this point.

    Hugs

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  11. I've been thinking about you all night. I'm so sorry for your loss and I am praying for you and the 3 other sweeties! Keep us updated!

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  12. I am so sorry for you loss! I just miscarried twins at three months so I know it is hard! I will be praying for you

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  13. Mare, a fellow quad mom shared your blog with me today. Our family will certainly be praying for you and for the protection of your babies. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss - praying that God would shine His grace, mercy, and strength upon you!

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  14. I'm so sorry to hear this news and will be keeping you all in my prayers.

    Lindsay

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  15. Many prayers and thoughts for you and the girls from me....Retta

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  16. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious little girl, Catherine! I pray for you and the other girls as you continue to persevere in the hospital. I pray for you as you grieve and that God would give you His peace. I also pray that He would allow these babies to grow and be healthy, giving you and them His strength and power. I think of Ephesians 3:20..."Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us."

    Praying for you all!

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  17. I heard about your babies from another quad mom too and my heart breaks for you! I too went into early labor and delivered my quads at 23w1d. We lost Katelyn after 3 days and though it was a long, difficult, scary road with our 3 survivors, God has been our rock and has been showing us miracle after miracle as they grow. Keeping you and your precious family in my prayers! If you need anything, please let me know! I remember being in a similar situation and am praying so hard! www.jennie-pollakfamily.blogspot.com

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  18. You don't know me, but another quad mom let me know about your story. You are so right that God is always good, but I know that doesn't necessarily make everything easier right now with the loss of your daughter. I was on mag at one point with my pregnancy also, and I know that it is a rough drug to be on too.

    I'm praying specifically that the side effects of the mag won't be overwhelming and that that God gives you peace. I am praying so hard for you, Reid, and your other three little girls.

    Rebecca

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  19. I have been following your blog and when I read this this morning my heart aches for you. You Reid and the babies are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Melissa Lanier
    Georgia

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  20. Been following for a while. So sorry to hear the news. Been praying for you and the babies, and will certainly continue. God bless!

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  21. I am so, so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  22. Many thoughts and prayers from my family. :(

    Allison

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  23. Thinking of you & your family. We delivered quad A at 22 weeks & did not deliver the others until 28 weeks. The Lord works in mysterious ways. Our surviving quadruplets are now healthy 8 years olds who talk DAILY of their brother in heaven! May God be with you!
    The Kijowski Family of Sycamore IL

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  24. Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss of your precious daughter, Catherine. I will be praying for your sweet family in the coming days and weeks!

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  25. Mare & Reid,
    You have so many people praying for you and for your babies. I am so sorry to hear about Cathrine. I pray that you feel peace at knowing that she is in heaven and will always be your special angel. You are in our prayers and you will have a huge support system of fellow quad mamas routing you on.

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  26. I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Along with so many others, I'm lifting you, Reid, Mary Grace, Madelyn, and Olivia up in prayer! Praying for God's peace to wash over you and for His hand of protection on your precious baby girls!
    Mandy

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  27. Mare and Reid,
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Catherine. I've been praying so much for all of you and will continue praying for Mary Grace, Madelyn, and Olivia.
    Love,
    Laura Krauss

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  28. Mary Virginia,

    I am so heartbroken for your loss. So much sorrow for such a wonderful person. I will be praying for peace. Aaron and I will also continue praying so much for the girls and you and Reid as your pregnancy continues. I know I can't offer much, but I can listen if you ever need to talk. Please let me know if I can help in any way.

    Liz

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  29. thinking of you and your little ones. heard your story on the quads and more page. So sorry, there are no words. I have been there. While our quads were born healthy we suffered numerous miscarriages and know the heartbreak. Keep your faith and all you can do is PRAY.

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  30. I am very sorry for the loss of your sweet daughter Catherine. I will continue to pray for Catherine and your other three daughters Olivia, Mary Grace, & Madelyn as the continue to thrive and grow stronger each day. God makes all things beautiful in time, and just know that the many prayers are being sent your way during this time of grief.

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  31. Mare, My heart breaks for the loss of your sweet Catherine Della. I have been following your story since the beginning and will be praying for the health of your girls and of you in the days and weeks ahead.

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